Embracing abstinence on moral grounds is reaching adolescents with
a positive message of hope, respect and future control. This is the
better message. Sexual values of what is good and bad, right and wrong,
important and unimportant and what is the definition of love, are
the questions to be answered.
Because of the bonding that takes place when two people have sexual
intimacy, most women and girls feel unloved and insecure when the
relationship ends. Often they will go to the extent of building a
wall around their heart to protect it from the pain of sexual involvement
before the commitment of marriage. This wall not only blocks out the
pain , but also blocks out the ability to experience true love, often
resulting in stunted personal growth (because premature sex can hinder
your identity development. All forms of sexual intimacy are “the
language of marriage”. Roaming hands, removing clothing, doing
something you would not do around someone you respect, arousing genital
feelings and reducing your ability to make and carry out an intelligent
decision, all interrupt “saving self till marriage”.
Making responsible decisions needs to include developing one’s
character, personhood, and personality. Building to develop total
humanness, not just genitocentric activity.
Either we give young people a coherent, integrated approach to the
temptations of modern life, or else they will apply the least common
ethical denominator to all the moral questions that confront them,
as we have seen many do over the last 35 years.
Parents, take your responsibility and privilege home, let’s
help you help your children, with in the context of developed family
values.
Parents are responsible to make sure their children are protected
from mistaken attitudes on sexual understanding and activities. When
you do please include a moral dimension, present in a positive light
and consider the differences between man and woman, with sensitivity
as to are appropriate information.
Persons are called to love and commitment to others, to lives of
personality with a moral perspective, building character is building
a lover and one to be loved. Learning of virtue needed in waiting-faithfulness,
self-control, modesty, good judgment, courage and genuine respect
for self and others develops character. To be the kind of person who
would make a good marriage partner and attract the kind of person
you want to marry………………
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